Far be it from me to compete with Seymour Papert. Since his connected family (my name of choice) was made public long ago, I have little choice other than to pick a similar, but not identical title for this column. Of course his title didn't refer to a specific family, but instead to an examination of how computers can be integrated into the family setting and help generate positive familial interaction. My title refers to a more modest goal: a case study, if you will, of the internet's effect and influence on one family. Whose? Well, mine, of course.
A year and a half ago I took a glimpse into the role our computer plays in our family life. Much has changed since then, mostly because the boys, as they grow older, want to use the computer more and more. But I don't intend a similar sort of examination this time, but rather a screen shot, a frozen moment in time, during which our internet connection became central to our lives: the second half of February, 1999, during which Tzippi and Hila traveled to Canada for a family visit.
It's not that we haven't been an online family since well before that visit. Though for various reasons our family web pages are dormant and even inaccessible, we've been an online family for about four years, and the web and e-mail have been quite central not only to our communication, but to the continually growing family archives as well.
And just so that nobody gets the impression that posting an
entire summer schedule only happens in the comics....
But for pretty much all of that time we meant me. I not only conceived and executed the web pages, I was also the one who used the e-mail. But Tzippi's trip changed that. First, the trip was decided upon at very short notice, and we were in need of quick contact with her brother in Toronto. Suddenly, instead of hearing a complaint when I'd turn the computer on after putting the kids to sleep, I'd discover, upon getting up from their beds and leaving their room, that it was already on, waiting for me to connect so that we could send or check mail. And finding it hard to conceive not seeing Hila for ten full days, I also conditioned my agreeing to the trip on Tzippi's brother installing ICQ, and on his getting his hands on a digital camera by which he could send photos every day.
The ICQ came in handy before the trip, though we discovered that though I'm online through much (too much) of the day, we were hardly ever online at the same time. During the trip itself we communicated via ICQ only once, but had almost daily e-mail contact, and I got photographs about every two days. Interestingly enough, we only spoke on the telephone once.
While Tzippi and Hila were away, Avigail, Mark's daughter, came to visit for Shabbat, and this visit also offered us an opportunity to see how connected, perhaps dependent on the internet, we are. Because of the nature of the program she's on, in its early stages, it was actually easier to contact Avigail via e-mail than it was by phone. Directions on how to get to the bus stop closest to our home were forwarded to her verbally by phone, but in the end they apparently didn't reach her clearly enough. Thus, though I waited at the bus stop at the agreed upon time, she didn't step off the bus. Nor off the next bus. Ultimately, though it wasn't a determining factor in finding her, the internet played a significant role in this adventure as well.
And when Tzippi and Hila's trip was over, the check list of our internet based correspondence was rather comprehensive for a ten day trip:
We're far from the most connected family around. I've sometimes even been known to get through an entire 24 hour period without checking my e-mail. Perhaps luckily the kids are still small enough not to take an active interest in their father's occupation and pre-occupation. Though occasionally we have difficulties communicating, it's not due to congestion of the phone lines, incorrect addressing, or insufficient band width. Most of our communicating is still done face to face, as well it should. I expect my kids to be technologically proficient, but I certainly hope they'll have communication skills that go beyond the ability to click on a mouse or send off an e-message with only a few key strokes. A connected family doesn't only mean that everyone uses e-mail.
- one ICQ conversation
- about seven e-letters from Canada to Israel, including five installments of photographs
- about seven e-letters from Israel to Canada, including:
- one "Family Day" greeting from Nadav
- one Hebrew letter to Tzippi from Eitan
- one scanned item just for fun
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